I was 18.
my little sis Mika cried when I told her I was pregnant because of this.
Little sisters are so sweet. Especially when they’re a lot younger than you. I was thirteen when she was born.
(thanks to anon for the suggestion)
When I married my husband I had yet to be on my own. He had lived on his own for a couple of years and had established credit, unlike me. However, he made a mess of it. He was a young man who wanted all the toys he could have and wasn’t exactly smart with his finances. So I came into this marriage hoping to help him out and plan some sort of strategy for our finances. It’s never easy when your young, married and in college, working a job that doesn’t pay as well as you’d like. Not to mention the decisions we make as a couple that may or may not be the smartest thing.
The first year of our marriage we paid off 3 credit cards. How? Budgeting.
We devised a plan.
Eating out 1-2 times a week, instead of weekly, multiple times a week.
Discussing our spending, is this something we need?
Not making any commitments, sometimes sacrifices need to be made.
Having a plan. How much money do we put aside for bills and how much for savings?
We made out this plan and were able to pay off those credit cards before that first year of marriage was up. It’s not easy. Things happen and laugh throws curve balls…like hospital bills. We’ve borrowed money from our parents, but we’ve never not paid them back within a couple of weeks. I used to be so embarrassed and had too much pride to ask but my very understanding in-laws (who had been through the hard times) explained that it’s good to ask for help when you need it and that they are there to help us. Not all parents will do that for you. Like I said, we’ve had difficult times.
This year, we’re finally doing well financially. We’ve sacrificed a lot and said ‘no’ to doing certain things. We put money back and used my second job as backup.
I know that I’m not qualified to tell anyone “How-To” budget or manage their finances because I have had trouble of my own, but I typed this up anyways because a lot of people feel the stress and frustration that I’ve felt. You’re not alone. I used to be so embarrassed and worried because I felt like all my friends had it all figured out and were right on track. It’s just not so. I finally got somewhere where I can kick my feet up and relax but it took a lot of work and support from people who care about us.
- A Wife (doing her very best)
She’s really skinny but she eats a lot of chocolate, it’s a disease.— Esah, talking about her great grandmother having diabetes.
Aww, poor Esah! Don’t worry— it’s a different love, little Esah! I’m sure Veronica will still love you a crap ton! :)
I know, Esah just makes us melt when she says things like this. I explained to her that we would still love her so much and how cool it would be to be an Auntie! She said “even though I’d be jealous about the baby, I’d probably hold it more than anyone else got to.” Haha
Conversations with Esah Part 2
Esah: I'm afraid for people to have babies because they will love them most.
Me: of course mommies and daddies will love their babies first.
Esah: I'm not talking about mommies and daddies, I'm talking about sisters. You and Scotty will love your baby more than me.
Conversations with Esah
Me: I love when people tell me what they got Scotty for Christmas.
Esah: I really love when people tell me what they got me for Christmas [look of expectation].
Esah and I are enjoying hot cocoa while watching #HowTheGrinchStoleChristmas before going to see the Carthage Christmas Lights display! ☕️❄️🎄
Sorry I keep posting about my pets…kind of.
Coon has been howling at every little bit of noise today, why? I don’t know but I think it sent Sadie off too. No sleeping in for us. Sadie is having a really difficult time with her crate training, so we’re trying something new I read about today!
I am really proud of her though. She bent down like she was going to potty on the floor but then got up, like she knew she shouldn’t, and sniffed around to find her potty pad. When she found it she went pee but barely missed it, she sniffed some more until she got all four corners of it sniffed and pooped right on it. Good job Sadie! I was so excited! I’m sure this doesn’t mean she’ll do it every time but it’s a good start.
You ladies are probably right, it’s probably the stress. I’m so anxious about school, training this pup and school lol. Hopefully this rash goes away soon though.
"You couldn’t leave me if you tried." It’s our playful way of saying that we’re both in it for the long haul. Usually it’s after one of us has annoyed the other and the exchange goes something like "even though you drive me nuts, I still love you." "I love you too and you couldn’t leave me if you tried." It’s sweet and funny and dorky. I like it! :)
Dishes. We both hate dishes and really postpone getting them done.
I workout. I cry it out. I visit my mom. Mostly though, what usually happens is that I lay my head on Scott’s lap and cry while he rubs my back. It just makes me feel way better to just let all those feelings out and fast!
Too many? I guess I don’t really know. I could never have more than one cat. Maybe two but that’s a long shot. And dogs? No more than 3! For us anyway. However, those are the only pets I ever want. Lol
My dream job would be I be a wellness coordinator for a large organization, where I can choose my own hours and be involved with the community.
My favorite memory with Scotty…that’s so hard and it might depend on when you ask me. When we were dating, after meeting his mom for the first time, we went on a long drive. We talked about our new relationship and what it meant and then he teared up as he told me he loved me and that it means so much that his family loves me too. All while watching a waterfall in the dark. :)
Barnes & Noble although we don’t have one here, we have a books-a-million. I’ve been to Barnes & Noble and it’s awesome!
I’ve been taught to change a tire and have done it once after for “practice” with my dad but I’ve never done it myself so I hope I could remember everything I learned lol.
My greatest accomplishment so far has been my marriage. I’m proud of my marriage and at such a young age, that’s saying a lot!
I wish he were more understanding. He has a hard time when I’m sick and/or going through something. Not necessarily in a bad way, he just has no idea how to handle it. He’s also doesn’t understand certain ideas or beliefs that I have and we differ so much when it comes to my humble attitude and his aggressive one. This is one reason people see him as tough or hard or a rock when really, once you get past that, he’s a big teddy bear! :)
I know this is the only thing because we talk about this stuff out loud together and I always ask him to try to understand more, me and others.